It’s the time of resolutions and review, we look back over the past year and look forward to the great blank page of tomorrow. Maybe 2018 will be the year that we hold more of those moments close. The year we spend our moments preciously. Before our calendars are full of winter weekends and spring commitments, here’s just one simple suggestion for reminding yourself of who’s in control of those numbered minutes (hint: you).
Read MoreWhat I find most annoying about this is how much energy and kindness I apparently need for myself. Why can’t I just live off fumes for a while?This dialectic that a cycle of giving and caring must include a renewal of ourselves, a kindness that prioritizes our own love and care as we also love and care for others.
Read MoreFor a long time, I was loyal to a (created) story that I was always just barely good enough to make the next hurtle. But as I grew, changed, and benefited from the great wisdom of therapists, mentors, and religious leaders, what I learned was that this story was like a too tight suit, like a rock in my shoe.
Read MoreTo do just one thing at a time, fully, wholeheartedly, throwing yourself into and immersing yourself in one thing. A single grape is almost transcendent when eaten slowly, one mindfully.
Read MoreAnd then I didn't know what was said and what I was furiously backing away from, grasping backwards to the solid ground. Why didn't I say anything? Why didn't I stand up and say 'Wait. Stop. Not here. Not in this hallowed place of love and inclusion, please don't say those things here.'
Read MoreAnd finally, fighting back tears, glaring at pumpkin pies that were missing two cups of sugar and all I could think was ‘here I am again, we’re an hour late and I’m screwing it all up again.’ Ah ha. There it was. The pure, unfiltered story I held for myself, the one that didn’t serve me.
Read MoreMy darling, here's what I wanted to say. The love we offer ourselves rings out, it can unfold in waves of love to friends and colleagues and strangers and enemies. For what do we push against more than our own true selves?
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